It’s spring time….at least in the southern United States. It’s time to prepare for the gardening season. We work hard to make our lawns and flowers look beautiful. We’ll invest our time and money to make it happen. After all those beautiful flowers required water, sunshine and proper pruning to grow….it can be a lot of work.
Ephesians 5:28-29 reminds us that a husband should care for his wife with the same intensity he nourishes his own body. To nourish is a behavior, so husbands must spend time every day doing things that help a wife feel loved. Like the apostle John explains, “Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions” (1 John 3:18). Instead of only telling your wife that you love her, your job is to learn how to love her with your actions. To do this successfully, you must take on a servant’s mindset. Nourishing means seeking to put her needs before your own (Philippians 2:3-4).
We need to figure out which specific actions help your wife feel loved. Don’t make an educated guess or treat her the way you would like her to treat you. Don’t apply the Golden Rule here! Your guess may be different from what your wife actually needs or wants. The best way to do this is to have your wife complete this statement:
“I feel loved when you . . .”
During each season of marriage, your wife will need something different, and those needs could change in an instant. Stay current on what she needs today.